Thats right and its down to who blinks first.
Remember that we impose upon ourselves the burden of believing that all civilians are innocent.
You look at the circus this has led to in Afghanistan.
This is not a call to kill civilians but rather to get real about who is doing during a war. One would have thought the Vietnam experience would have led to some truth coming home to the US military but sadly looking at Afghanistan nothing was learned.
Worth a read is the following:
The Art of Coercion: The Primitive Accumulation and Management of Coercive Power
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