I think you are focusing on the details, but you have to get the big picture before you can do the details. Pakistan's army (and its really the army that still runs policy in this arena) has certain notions about its own strategic needs. These notions are first and foremost India-centric. Once you accept certain "strategic concepts" that are regularly taught in military academies, then this obsession even makes some kind of sense. But in another country one might have had think tanks and civilian politicians with other priorities and greater vision watching over the generals. That adult oversight is lacking in Pakistan. Instead, the generals live in a world where they are the only people who really know the score on strategy and "national interest" and everyone else is a fool or a tool. Left to their own devices, they will ALWAYS look for ways to carry on their zero-sum game with India. For whatever reasons (incompetence? oversmart theorizing? Stockholm syndrome? short-sighted self interest? corruption?) the US lets this stupid game continue and tries its carrots and sticks around it. That is not going to work. Plain speaking would probably work better, but I guess the US establishment has its own habits of thought and plain speaking to third world countries is not one of them....not even when they actually dont need "unobtainium" from under the gooks' sacred tree.....
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