Your dillemma is seen throughout social sciences when we try to apply fixed rules, boundaries, and parameters to an open, living system. For instance, in a 2 player min/max game, we assume perfect communication, rational actors, and fair play. In reality, that never happens.
I would suggest looking at Brinksmanship, First Strike games, and Evolutionary Stable Systems (ESS) for better application in the real world.
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