Look up some authors like Bruce Schnier, Maj. Dodge (USMA), Eugene Spafford, Eberscholoe, Clay Wilson, Dan Verton, there will be others. I posted a cyber warfare list of materials here on SWC... For a contrary to your proposed thesis James Lewis has an interesting piece that basically says all thing cyber-warfare are hissycock.

Check out my wildly inappropriately egotistic blog post for a few ideas on the topic.