I quit giving, and started making references to how the regs treated commanders who "suggested" such things. Surprisingly, despite what everyone warned me, my career has not been adversely impacted by this decision.

Instead, I decided to go 4GW on giving: We give 10% of our income to organizations and causes that we personally know and vett. Additionally, we donate time to these same organizations, part of which, we continue to evaluate the organization and the value of our monetary gift.

We've found that we can become very big fish in a small pond this way, and we find that we no longer become "slob givers". The difference between giving to allay corporate guilt, and giving to actually and truly make a difference makes one feel very good about ourselves.