I'm all about leading, controlling is another story.

Leaders are followed out of the influence they possess, as others simply believe they will be better off by sticking close to the leader, so follow of their own accord.

Controllers lay down rules and direct others where to be, how to act, what to think, etc. They aren't followed so much as they direct and herd others to where they want them to be.

Then there are the "out of controllers," people either get out of their way to avoid the collatoral damage, or follow out of a morbid sense of curiosity as to what kind of trouble they are going to get into next.

We've been in that second category for quite a while, with growing fliration with that thrid category...