We're mired in details and wording of the implications of DADT and haven't, IMHO, answered two key strategic questions:

1. Is it proper for a society or military to regulate or prohibit adult, consentual sexual behavior?

2. What is the basis of individuals rights and law? The U.S. Declaration of Independence states the source of rights is: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." and similarly the source of law is "Laws of Nature and of Nature's God" Are human rights endowed by a "Creator" or just what society decides they are? Likewise is law just based on the tastes and feeling of a society at a particular time or are they or should they be based on "Laws of Nature and of Nature's God" ?

Get the strategy right and the tactics will follow?